23-year-old girlfriend feels excluded at boyfriend's 24th birthday dinner when his extended family don't sing to her, she leaves early before they can give her a gift: ‘Your birthdays aren’t even the same day'

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    AITA for not making my girlfriend feel included at my birthday dinner

    Man blows out candles on a cake as people smile around him
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    TLDR: my girlfriend is upset my extended family didnt sing to her during my birthday dinner.
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    Im a 24M and just celebrated my birthday yesterday at an expensive AYCE kbbq place with my family and extended family. My girlfriend 23F came too.
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    Our birthdays are 5 days apart and throughout dinner. My relative, said happy birthday to me and some even recorded birthday messages and videos on social media. Some who knew it was close to her birthday also told her happy birthday.
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    The tipping point was when the restaurant and my family brought out the complimentary cake slice and sang happy birthday to me. They didn't include her name and the song
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    and there wasn't a complimentary slice for her. She asked to talk outside, said she didn't feel welcome, then left early. I gave her the keys and she drove home before the dinner ended.
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    A slice of chocolate cake with a decoration that reads Happy Birthday
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    Some context: we've been together for 2 years and lived together at her place. She doesn't come to many family gatherings. I was already planning something separate for her
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    birthday but wasn't involved and planning this dinner (was set up by my family). I also didn't tell them to make it a joint celebration or arranged for her to be included in the cake moment.
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    Now, i'm wondering if I should have spoken up more to make sure she felt included or if it's unreasonable for her to expect attention, that essentially was my birthday dinner.
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    UPDATE: Thank you everyone for your comments. Summarizing my replies.
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    Everyone headed to the house after the dinner. My immediate family were aware of her birthday. Her present and card was at the house after the
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    dinner. I saw extended fam were signing mine and her cards before the actual cake singing at so at that point my extended fam would have also
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    realized her bday coming up. She nor i mentioned her birthday while we were waiting to get seated for dinner. Should I have tho?
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    Upset woman leaning against a wall and looking at her phone
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    There was a previous incident to this. During the holidays was chilling facetimed one of my extended family members (close to my age and they didn't say explicitly to wish happy
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    new year directly to her). Context: They didn't see or hear her on FaceTime. Didn't know she was near me/ in the same house together. But kinda assumed cuz we didn't go to the family countdown party.
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    Even if she wasn't there, her whole immediate family (lives in different country) would greet or ask about me. She was mad for months at that individual. I also stopped seeing my family for a long period.
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    Im wondering is this an ingrained cultural thing that I should try harder to give her advice on? will she ever change? We're technically young enough to change our perspectives right?
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    mikoline97 It's not her birthday, it's yours. She is not involved with your family how could your family have guessed that she wanted to be celebrated at the same time as you It's just a whim and your girlfriend is egocentric and selfish
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    Woman basks in the attention as people sing happy birthday to her and bring her a cake
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    Agitated-Hour-4783 OP After the restaurant, some of my family chipped in to buy her a gift, a card for her and cake. They were planning to sing to her at our house.
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    Adelucas NTA but your girlfriend is. The event was about you. People even wished her happy birthday for hers a week later. She decided to throw a fit because YOUR family celebrated YOU and didn't make it all about her.
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    She sounds like the type of person who as a kid always got to blow out someone elses candles and got a gift so she didn't feel left out.
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    Traditional_Koala216 It wasn't her birthday or her bday dinner. She's making a big deal about your family celebrating you. She needs to get over herself a bit.
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    lantana98 It was your party. Your birthdays are not even on the same day. She was an invited guest. She sounds like the kind of person that likes to create a show where she is always the poor victim and always pouting about how no one e understands or appreciates her. I hope I'm wrong.
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    III-Veterinarian4208 She sounds a little dramatic. It wasn't her birthday, you didn't make the plans. She's pouting like a toddler over an imaginary offence.
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    Agitated-Hour-4783 OP Asked her if she wanted to throw a party this year but she said she wants spend it together just us. Have something planned...

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